Njengomama, umsebenzi kababa unzima futhi ngezinye izikhathi ukhungathekisa ukukhulisa izingane.Nokho, ngokungafani nomama, obaba ngokuvamile abakutholi ukuqashelwa okwanele ngendima yabo ezimpilweni zethu.
Bangabaphi, abasakazi bamahlaya amabi nababulali bezimbungulu.Obaba bayasijabulela endaweni yethu ephakeme futhi basifundisa ukuthi singalinqoba kanjani iphuzu eliphansi kakhulu.
Ubaba wasifundisa ukujikijela i-baseball noma ukudlala ibhola.Sithe uma sihamba basiletha esitolo amasondo ethu agqashuke nezinti ngoba besingazi ukuthi siphantshile bese sicabanga ukuthi kunenkinga yesiteringi (siyaxolisa baba).
Ukuze sigubhe uSuku Lobaba kulo nyaka, i-Greeley Tribune ithulela isigqoko obaba abahlukahlukene emphakathini wethu ngokuxoxa izindaba zobaba kanye nolwazi lwabo.
Sinobaba wentombazane, ubaba womthetho, ubaba oyedwa, ubaba wokutholwa, usingababa, ubaba wesicishamlilo, ubaba osekhulile, ubaba womfana kanye nobaba omncane.
Nakuba wonke umuntu engubaba, wonke umuntu unendaba yakhe ehlukile kanye nombono walokho abaningi abakubiza ngokuthi “umsebenzi ongcono kakhulu emhlabeni”.
Sithole izinhlu eziningi kakhulu ngale ndaba emphakathini, futhi ngeshwa, asikwazanga ukubhala igama labo bonke obaba.I-Tribune inethemba lokuguqula lesi sihloko sibe umcimbi waminyaka yonke ukuze sikwazi ukubika izindaba eziningi zobaba emphakathini wethu.Ngakho ngicela ukhumbule labobaba ngonyaka ozayo, ngoba sifuna ukukwazi ukuxoxa izindaba zabo.
Iminyaka eminingi, uMike Peters wasebenza njengentatheli yephephandaba ukwazisa imiphakathi yaseGreeley naseWeld County ngobugebengu, amaphoyisa, nolunye ulwazi olubalulekile.Uyaqhubeka nokubhalela i-Tribune, wabelana ngemicabango yakhe ku-“Rough Trombone” njalo ngoMgqibelo, futhi ubhala imibiko yomlando yekholomu ethi “Iminyaka Eyikhulu Edlule”.
Nakuba ukuduma emphakathini kuyinto enhle ezintathelini, kodwa kungase kucasule izingane zabo.
"Uma kungekho muntu othi, 'O, uyingane kaMike Peters,' ngeke uye ndawo," kwengeza uVanessa Peters-Leonard emamatheka.“Wonke umuntu uyamazi ubaba.Kumnandi uma abantu bengamazi.”
UMick wathi: “Kumelwe ngisebenze nobaba izikhathi eziningi, ngihlale enkabeni yedolobha, futhi ngibuye lapho kuphephile.”“Kumele ngihlangane neqembu labantu.Kumnandi.Ubaba usezindabeni ukuthi uhlangana nazo zonke izinhlobo zabantu.Enye yezinto.”
Isithunzi esihle sikaMike Peters njengentatheli sibe nomthelela omkhulu kuMick noVanessa ekukhuleni kwabo.
“Uma kukhona engikufunde kubaba, uthando nobuqotho,” kuchaza uVanessa.“Kusukela emsebenzini wakhe kuya emndenini nakubangani, nguyena lo.Abantu bayamethemba ngenxa yobuqotho bakhe bokubhala, ubuhlobo bakhe nabantu, nokubaphatha ngendlela noma ubani afuna ukuphathwa ngayo.”
UMick wathi ukubekezela nokulalela abanye yizinto ezimbili ezibaluleke kakhulu azifunde kuyise.
“Kufanele ubekezele, kufanele ulalele,” kusho uMick.“Ungomunye wabantu abanesineke engibaziyo.Ngisafunda ukubekezela nokulalela.Kuthatha impilo yakhe yonke, kodwa usekwazile.”
Enye into izingane zikaPeters ezazifunda kuyise nomama wazo yilokho okwenza umshado nobudlelwane obuhle.
“Basenobungane obuqinile, ubuhlobo obuqinile kakhulu.Usambhalela izincwadi zothando,” kusho uVanessa.“Into encane kabi, ngisho sengimdala ngiyayibheka futhi ngicabanga ukuthi umshado kufanele ube nje.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi izingane zakho zineminyaka emingaki, uyohlale ungabazali bazo, kodwa emndenini wakwaPeters, njengoba uVanessa noMick bekhula, lobu buhlobo bufana nobungane.
Ehlezi kusofa ebuka uVanessa noMick, kulula ukubona ukuziqhenya, uthando nenhlonipho uMike Peters anakho ngezingane zakhe ezimbili esezikhulile kanye nabantu asebephenduke.
"Sinomndeni omuhle kakhulu nomndeni onothando," kusho uMike Peters ngezwi lakhe elithambile."Ngiyaziqhenya kakhulu ngabo."
Nakuba uVanessa noMick bengabhala inqwaba yezinto abazifunde kubaba wabo eminyakeni edlule, kubaba omusha uTommy Dyer, izingane zakhe ezimbili zingothisha futhi ungumfundi.
U-Tommy Dyer ungomunye wabanikazi be-Brix Brew and Tap.Kutholakala ku-8th St. 813, u-Tommy Dyer ungubaba wobuhle ababili blonde-3 1/2 oneminyaka engu-Lyon kanye no-Lucy onezinyanga ezingu-8.
“Ngesikhathi sinendodana, nathi saqala leli bhizinisi, ngakho ngatshala imali eningi endaweni eyodwa,” kusho uDell.“Unyaka wokuqala wawunzima kakhulu.Ngempela kwathatha isikhathi eside ukuthi ngivele ngijwayele ukuba ubaba wami.Angizange ngizizwe ngingubaba kwaze kwazalwa (uLucy).”
Ngemva kokuba uDale esenendodakazi yakhe encane, imibono yakhe ngokuba ubaba yashintsha.Uma kukhulunywa ngoLucy, ukubambana kwakhe kanzima nokujikijela noLyon kuyinto ayicabanga kabili ngayo.
“Ngizizwa ngiwumvikeli.Ngethemba ukuthi ngizoba yindoda empilweni yakhe ngaphambi kokuthi ashade,” esho egona indodakazi yakhe encane.
Njengomzali wezingane ezimbili ezibhekile futhi ezigxile kukho konke, uDell wafunda ngokushesha ukubekezela nokunaka amazwi nezenzo zakhe.
“Yonke into encane iyabathinta, ngakho kumele wenze isiqiniseko sokuthi usho izinto ezifanele ezibazungezile,” kusho uDell.Ziyizipontshi ezincane, ngakho amazwi nezenzo zakho zibalulekile.
Into eyodwa uDyer athanda ukuyibona ukuthi ubuntu bukaLeon noLucy bukhula kanjani nokuthi buhluke kanjani.
“ULeon uwuhlobo lomuntu ohlanzekile, futhi uwuhlobo lomuntu ongcolile, ogcwele umzimba wonke,” esho.“Kuyahlekisa kakhulu.”
“Uma sikhuluma iqiniso, usebenza kanzima,” kusho yena.“Kunobusuku obuningi lapho ngingekho ekhaya.Kodwa kuhle ukuba nesikhathi nabo ekuseni futhi ugcine lokhu kulinganisela.Lona umzamo ohlanganyelwe wendoda nomfazi, futhi angikwazi ukukwenza ngaphandle kwakhe.
Lapho ebuzwa ukuthi isiphi iseluleko ayezosinikeza abanye obaba abasha, uDale wathi ngempela ubaba akayona into ongayilungiselela.Kwenzekile, "lungisa futhi ukuthole".
“Ayikho incwadi nanoma yini ongayifunda,” esho.“Wonke umuntu uhlukile futhi uzoba nezimo ezingafani.Ngakho-ke iseluleko sami siwukuba wethembe umzwelo wakho futhi ube nomndeni nabangane eceleni kwakho. "
Kunzima ukuba umzali.Omama abangabodwa banzima kakhulu.Kodwa ukuba umzali ongayedwa wengane yobulili obuhlukile kungaba omunye wemisebenzi enzima kakhulu.
Isakhamuzi saseGreeley u-Cory Hill nendodakazi yakhe eneminyaka engu-12 ubudala u-Ariana bakwazile ukunqoba inselele yokuba umzali oyedwa, ingasaphathwa eyokuba ubaba wentombazane ongayedwa.U-Hill wanikezwa ilungelo lokugcina lapho u-Ariane esecishe abe neminyaka emi-3 ubudala.
“Ngingubaba omncane;”Ngamzala ngineminyaka engu-20 ubudala.Njengezithandani eziningi ezisencane, asizange sizilolonge ngezizathu ezahlukene,” kuchaza uHill.“Unina akekho lapho angamnakekela khona, ngakho kunengqondo ukuthi ngimyeke asebenze ngokugcwele.Ihlala kulesi simo.”
Izibopho zokuba ubaba wengane encane zasiza u-Hill ukuthi akhule ngokushesha, futhi wancoma indodakazi yakhe “ngokuyigcina ithembekile futhi imgcine eqaphile”.
“Ukube bengingenawo lowo mthwalo wemfanelo, bengingase ngiqhubekele phambili naye ekuphileni,” esho."Ngicabanga ukuthi lokhu kuyinto enhle nesibusiso kithina sobabili."
Ukukhula nomfowethu oyedwa kuphela kungekho dade ongabhekisa kuye, u-Hill kumele afunde konke mayelana nokukhulisa indodakazi yakhe yedwa.
“Njengoba ekhula, kuba ijika lokufunda.Manje usekhulile, futhi ziningi izinto zomphakathi engingazi ukuthi ngingabhekana nazo noma ngiziphendule kanjani.Izinguquko zomzimba, kanye nezinguquko ezingokomzwelo okungekho noyedwa wethu owake wabhekana nazo,” kusho u-Hill emamatheka.“Kungokokuqala ngqa kithina sobabili, futhi kungenza izinto zibe ngcono.Nakanjani angiyena uchwepheshe kule ndawo - futhi angikasho ukuthi nginguye."
Lapho kuphakama izinkinga ezifana nokuya esikhathini, obhodisi nezinye izinkinga eziphathelene nabesifazane, u-Hill no-Ariana bayasebenzisana ukuze bazixazulule, benze ucwaningo ngemikhiqizo futhi baxoxe nabangane besifazane nomndeni.
“Unenhlanhla yokuba nothisha abasezingeni eliphezulu kuso sonke isikole samabanga aphansi, futhi yena nohlobo lothisha abaxhumene bamfaka ngaphansi kwesivikelo sabo futhi bamnikeze indima yokuba ngumama,” kusho u-Hill.“Ngicabanga ukuthi kuyasiza ngempela.Ucabanga ukuthi kukhona abesifazane eduze kwakhe abangathola engingakwazi ukukunikeza.”
Ezinye izinselelo zikaHill njengomzali ongayedwana zihlanganisa ukungakwazi ukuya noma kuphi ngesikhathi esisodwa, ukuba nguwena othatha izinqumo kanye nomondli wedwa.
“Uphoqeleka ukuthi uzithathele isinqumo.Awunawo umbono wesibili wokumisa noma ukusiza ukuxazulula le nkinga,” kusho uHill.“Kuhlale kunzima, futhi kuzonyusa izinga elithile lokucindezeleka, ngoba uma ngingakwazi ukuyikhulisa kahle le ngane, konke kulele kimina.”
U-Hill uzonikeza iseluleko kwabanye abazali abangabodwa, ikakhulukazi labobaba abathola ukuthi bangabazali abangabodwa, ukuthi kufanele uthole indlela yokuxazulula inkinga futhi ukwenze isinyathelo ngesinyathelo.
“Lapho ngiqala ukuthola ilungelo lokugcina u-Ariana, ngangimatasa ngomsebenzi;Ngangingenamali;Kwadingeka ngiboleke imali yokuqasha indlu.Sazabalaza isikhashana,” kusho uHill.“Umsangano lo.Ngangingakaze ngicabange ukuthi sizophumelela noma sifike kuleli zinga, kodwa manje sinekhaya elihle, ibhizinisi eliqhutshwa kahle.Kuyahlanya ukuthi unamandla angakanani kanti awuboni.Phezulu.”
Ehlezi endaweni yokudlela yomndeni i-Bricktop Grill, u-Anderson wamamatheka, nakuba amehlo akhe ayegcwele izinyembezi, lapho eqala ukukhuluma ngoKelsey.
“Ubaba ongizalayo akekho nhlobo empilweni yami.Akafoni;akahloli, akukho lutho, ngakho angikaze ngimcabange njengobaba,” kusho u-Anderson.“Lapho ngineminyaka engu-3 ubudala, ngabuza uKelsey ukuthi wayezimisele yini ukuba ubaba wami, wathi yebo.Wenza izinto eziningi.Wayehlale eseduze kwakhe, okuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu kimina.”
“Esikoleni samabanga aphansi kanye nonyaka wami wokuqala nowesibili, wakhuluma nami ngesikole nokubaluleka kwesikole,” kusho yena.“Ngangicabanga ukuthi ufuna ukungikhulisa, kodwa ngafunda ngemva kokufeyila amakilasi ambalwa.”
Yize u-Anderson afunda ku-inthanethi ngenxa yalolu bhubhane, wakhumbula ukuthi uKelsey wamcela ukuthi avuke ekuseni ukuze alungiselele isikole, njengokungathi uziyela mathupha ekilasini.
“Kunohlelo lwezikhathi oluphelele, ngakho singaqeda umsebenzi wesikole futhi sihlale sikhuthazekile,” kusho u-Anderson.